I have never heard of pressure treated white pine being used for any structural purposes. So I would not listen to that guy.
Generally east of the Rocky’s the standard wood is southern yellow pine, SYP.
On the west coast several different woods are used. Douglas fir is one.
I would go with the 25-50 years.
That said that are ways of building a deck that will cause it to not last that long.
The two main ones are not allowing the materials to dry. For example burrying a post in concrete. The standoff bases are much better.
And not using corrosion resistant fasteners.
As to the PVC trim.
I depends. If you are only doing some repairs and replacing like for like then it might be reused.
But if doing a whole rebuild there is a good chance that dimension will end up being slightly different and the stuff won’t fit right.